In this overview conversation about raising a ministry family, Coletta, and Heidi peal the first layer of the onion in the challenge of raising our ministry/pastor’s kids to love Jesus, authentically and from the heart. This can be tough when ministry is difficult and they equate Jesus and our work for Him. Our kids have a unique perspective because they have a front-row seat to God’s chosen way of working in the world, through His Church. But when His Church doesn’t behave well, we have to coach our kids carefully in order for them to come out the other side. We’ll dig into some practical ways to help our kids buck the PK syndrome. This is the first in a series of more specific conversations about raising a ministry family and serves as a good overview.
Helping Our Kids Love Jesus and His People - Even When They Are Difficult
Episode 102
April 12, 2023 • Coletta Smith, Heidi Gilboy
Walking with Others Through Infidelity
May 24, 2023 • Coletta Smith, Tammy Gustafson
In this second part of the conversation, Coletta and Tammy will build off of the processes and tools we learned in “Infidelity in Your Ministry Marriage”. We’ll look specifically at how a pastor’s wife can walk alongside someone else going through infidelity. When a marriage comes to this cliff, it is common for a pastor and his wife to be the ‘first on the scene’ and are faced with helping them find their way through. There are so many things we can do to help, but often with good intentions, can say and do things that harm. Get some new ways to think about this sacred space of someone’s pain that God has asked you to enter into.
Walking Through Infidelity in Your Ministry Marriage
May 17, 2023 • Coletta Smith, Tammy Gustafson
Coletta and Tammy Gustafson (LPC, trauma specialist, founder: http://betrayalhealing.com) talk about dealing with infidelity when it's your own marriage. This conversation is specifically for those in ministry because there aren’t many resources for us. But much of the process Tammy walks us through is helpful if you are walking through it with someone else. She helps ministry/pastors’ wives to walk in wisdom in this, helping them do it in a way that is healthy. If this is something you are facing, there are many practicals to help you take the next step for long-term healing and some encouraging words to help you see you aren’t alone.
Walking Alongside People in Pain – Without Getting Consumed Yourself
May 10, 2023 • Coletta Smith, LeighAnn Brisbin
Coletta talks with guest LeighAnn Brisbin (LPC, ministry trauma specialist) from FreeToBe Ministries about how pastors and ministry wives can walk with people through crisis. They’ll talk about the uniqueness of a Pastors’ wive’s spot, where you are often given trust you didn’t earn, simply because of who you are married to – and invited into very difficult and painful situations – but places where God has led and will use you. Coletta and LeighAnn dig into how to manage your own heart, managing the tension between healthy boundaries and loving sacrificially, developing your team, and compartmentalize. And finally, how to navigate when multiple crisis come at the same time – and finding your lifelines. (I wish I’d had this 30 years ago)